As a wife and hopeless romantic, I can speak first hand to the pain of experiencing a relationship with my partner that was not what I had expected or prepared for. I believe in couples therapy because I have been a participant in it and know that it was one of the greatest gifts to my own marriage. When we are not in a place of feeling safe and connected to our partner, our whole life can feel out of sorts. The work of therapy takes commitment and time, but has the power to make lasting change in your marriage or relationship.
Together we will work to identify the patterns of your relationship, and begin to find new ways to interact that increase feelings of safety and emotional connection with your partner/spouse. The first few sessions are more focused on gathering information and helping to name your core patterns of behavior. By allowing each of you space to be heard, we can begin to change the ways you interact with one another.
Not all couples come to therapy to save their relationship. In some cases I understand that the best outcome is helping you separate in a healthy and respectful process. When that goal is identified, I am here to offer support and give each of you space to share your concerns and fears. Even ending a relationship can be full of love and emotional connection.
If you are someone who likes to do this work on your own, there is some amazing research and field work happening in Couples Therapy these days. Two of our greatest resources are Dr. Sue Johnson and Dr. John Gottman. I would recommend that you begin by reading Dr. Sue Johnson’s book, “Hold Me Tight” or Dr. Gottman’s “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” or “The Relationship Cure.”
Premarital counseling is a form of couples therapy that allows a couple to think through a variety of different areas of focus prior to tying the knot. Areas of focus can include communication, finances, families of origin, spirituality, hopes, behaviors, and much more. This can be an invaluable process to help prepare for life together, giving you a chance to make healthy adjustments and plans for your marriage.
I am certified in Prepare and Enrich which offers premarital and marriage counseling, including an online assessment, that offers feedback regarding your strengths and growth areas as a couple. Using your results can lay the foundation for work that we will do to prepare for your marriage.
Typically premarital counseling includes 5 – 50 minutes sessions. The cost for this is $500 plus the cost of the online assessment (around $35). Some couples choose to combine these sessions into 3 meetings including an initial 50 minute session to review the assessment and set some goals, and two 100 minute sessions.
How To Get Started
If you’d like to get started with therapy, give me a call to schedule an appointment at 612-305-8606