Hello and welcome!
I am Kelly Haase, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and owner of In Tandem Counseling. So glad you stopped by. Trying to find a new therapist can be both an exciting and sometimes intimidating or scary process, but so worth it! Having the right person is important and changes everything, so feel free to snoop around and see if we might be a good fit for each other and let me know if you have any questions. I would love to talk with you.
Approach:
I am a systemic thinker. This means I believe that we are all a product of our experiences, our families, and the people we have met and interacted with along the way. Our interactions of joy, love, pain, and struggle form our beliefs and thoughts about the world and ourselves. We are complicated and beautiful people!
I do not believe that people are broken and need to be fixed. Each of us is acting out of our best abilities in any given moment. But sometimes the ways we learned to function as children or in an earlier relationship becomes disruptive to us as adults. We need to understand the root causes of our pain so that we can change our maladaptive patterns.
How Change Happens:
Healing comes through sharing our story, increasing a greater understanding of ourselves, engaging with empirically-sound practices, and committing to change. One of the reasons I love being a therapist is that I get the pleasure of joining others in their journey of discovery and finding their own path. Through this journey you can recognize the lovable and valuable qualities about yourself, while rewiring your brain to more effective behaviors and interactions!
Collective of healers:
In 2019 we joined as a collective of independent business owners/therapists who wanted to practice in a shared space. The therapists listed on the independent provider tab are not employees of In Tandem Counseling. We support each other in business and share office space.
Book Recommendations:
General self awareness and self help:
Burnout by Emily and Amelia Nagoski
Brene Brown: Daring Greatly, Rising Strong, Braving the Wilderness
Blog addressing anxiety, depression, parenting, and more: Hey Sigmund
Any work by Thich Nhat Hahn and his www.lionsroar.com site
For Couples:
Sue Johnson: Hold Me Tight, Love Sense
John Gottman: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, The Relationship Cure, and Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
Amir Levine: Attached
Esther Perel: Mating in Captivity, The State of Affairs
Emily Nagoski: Come As You Are
For Trauma:
Bessel Van Der Kolk: The Body Keeps The Score
Peter Levine: Waking the Tiger, Healing Trauma, and Trauma and Memory
Robert Scaer: The Trauma Spectrum: Hidden Wounds and Human Resiliency, The Body Bears the Burden: Trauma, Dissociation, and Disease, and 8 Keys to Brain-Body Balance (8 Keys to Mental Health)
For Parenting:
Tina Payne Bryson and Daniel Siegel: The Whole Brained Child , The Yes Brain, No Drama Discipline, and The Power of Showing Up
For Fun:
The Alchemist by Paulo Cuelho
Broken Horses by Brandi Carlile
Untamed by Glennon Doyle
Questions? Check out the FAQ page
How To Get Started
If you’d like to get started with therapy, choose your therapist and contact them directly, or call Kelly Haase, LMFT at 612-305-8606
How “In Tandem Counseling” got its name:
One time I bought my husband a GPS unit (those super cool devices we needed before we had smart phones!). He wisely traded this gift with a friend for a tandem bicycle; a beautiful, vintage, brown, one-speed, Schwinn Twin! We love our tandem bike, but it caused us some conflict early on.
We had to learn how to communicate clearly, work together as a team, and offer each other support, especially going up hills on a 1970’s Schwinn Twin with only one speed! (No matter how badly my legs were burning, I would hear him yell from the front seat, “Are you pedaling?”)! Riding our tandem bike around town, we learned a lot about ourselves and each other. We had to balance together on turns, began to cheer each other on during the uphill burn, communicate when and where our next move would be, when it was time to put on the brakes, and what sort of obstacles or traffic was coming our way. All in all, we found that tandem biking was great for our relationship!
When I was dreaming about going into private practice and thinking about what I wanted to offer as a therapist, I was reminded of our experiences on the tandem bike. My approach to therapy is very similar. Whether working with couples, individuals, or as a collaborative team within the clinic, we want to help create that same dynamic of healthy communication, teamwork, and support. We believe that when we work together, we go new places!