We Believe Black Lives Matter

We stand in solidarity with our community. We seek justice for George Floyd, Breonna Taylor and all those experiencing the oppression of systemic racism. Healing for all begins with healing for one. Let’s work together.

Welcome!

*please note that beginning May 3, 2021 Kelly Haase and other therapists will be offering in person sessions to clients. Please contact your therapist for specific information!

Hello and welcome!

I am Kelly Haase, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and owner of In Tandem Counseling. So glad you stopped by. Trying to find a new therapist can be both an exciting and sometimes intimidating or scary process, but so worth it! Having the right person is important and changes everything, so feel free to snoop around and see if we might be a good fit for each other and let us know if you have any questions. We would love to talk with you.

Approach:

The therapists at In Tandem Counseling are systemic thinkers. This means we believe that we are all a product of our experiences, our families, and the people we have met and interacted with along the way. Our interactions of joy, love, pain, and struggle form our beliefs and thoughts about the world and ourselves. We are complicated and beautiful people!

We do not believe that people are broken and need to be fixed. Each of us is acting out of our best abilities in any given moment. But sometimes the ways we learned to function as children or in an earlier relationship becomes disruptive to us as adults. We need to understand the root causes of our pain so that we can change our maladaptive patterns.

How Change Happens:

Healing comes through sharing our story, increasing a greater understanding of ourselves, engaging with empirically-sound practices, and committing to change. One of the reasons I love being a therapist is that I get the pleasure of joining others in their journey of discovery and finding their own path. Through this journey you can recognize the lovable and valuable qualities about yourself, while rewiring your brain to more effective behaviors and interactions!

Please feel free to explore each therapist’s bio page to help choose your best fit! We would be happy to offer a free 15 minute consultation for your convenience.

Book Recommendations:

General self awareness and self help:

Burnout by Emily and Amelia Nagoski

Brene Brown: Daring Greatly, Rising Strong, Braving the Wilderness

Rick Hanson: Resilient

Blog addressing anxiety, depression, parenting, and more: Hey Sigmund

Any work by Thich Nhat Hahn and his www.lionsroar.com site

For Couples:

Sue Johnson: Hold Me Tight, Love Sense

John Gottman: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, The Relationship Cure, and Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

Amir Levine: Attached

Esther Perel: Mating in Captivity, The State of Affairs

Emily Nagoski: Come As You Are

For Trauma:

Bessel Van Der Kolk: The Body Keeps The Score

Peter Levine: Waking the Tiger, Healing Trauma, and Trauma and Memory

Robert Scaer: The Trauma Spectrum: Hidden Wounds and Human Resiliency, The Body Bears the Burden: Trauma, Dissociation, and Disease, and 8 Keys to Brain-Body Balance (8 Keys to Mental Health)

For Parenting:

Tina Payne Bryson and Daniel Siegel: The Whole Brained Child , The Yes Brain, No Drama Discipline, and The Power of Showing Up

For Fun:

The Alchemist by Paulo Cuelho

Broken Horses by Brandi Carlile

Untamed by Glennon Doyle

Questions? Check out the FAQ page

How To Get Started

If you’d like to get started with therapy, choose your therapist and contact them directly, or call Kelly Haase, LMFT at 612-305-8606

How “In Tandem Counseling” got its name:

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One time I bought my husband a GPS unit (those super cool devices we needed before we had smart phones!). He wisely traded this gift with a friend for a tandem bicycle; a beautiful, vintage, brown, one-speed, Schwinn Twin! We love our tandem bike, but it caused us some conflict early on.

We had to learn how to communicate clearly, work together as a team, and offer each other support, especially going up hills on a 1970’s Schwinn Twin with only one speed! (No matter how badly my legs were burning, I would hear him yell from the front seat, “Are you pedaling?”)! Riding our tandem bike around town, we learned a lot about ourselves and each other. We had to balance together on turns, began to cheer each other on during the uphill burn, communicate when and where our next move would be, when it was time to put on the brakes, and what sort of obstacles or traffic was coming our way. All in all, we found that tandem biking was great for our relationship!

When I was dreaming about going into private practice and thinking about what I wanted to offer as a therapist, I was reminded of our experiences on the tandem bike. My approach to therapy is very similar. Whether working with couples, individuals, or as a collaborative team within the clinic, we want to help create that same dynamic of healthy communication, teamwork, and support. We believe that when we work together, we go new places!

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