Author and Theologian, Frederick Buechner believed that we are called to a place where our deep gladness and the world’s deep hunger meet. I believe that all people have immeasurable value and worth, and have found deep gladness in building relationships rooted in trust and vulnerability, while sitting with others in their pain and struggle.
Prior to my work as a therapist, I spent 12 years working for non-profit organizations in pursuit of justice. My heart’s desire is to live in a world with less hurt, more compassion, and greater awareness of each other. As someone born and raised outside of Chicago, IL, I know how to be direct and firm in love. I will not coddle you and let you remain the same! Having completed my Master’s degrees in both marriage and family therapy, and theology, I am comfortable exploring spiritual and non-spiritual beliefs.
Much of my life I have worked with teenagers and absolutely adore them! I like to say when working with teens that my “inner junior high boy” will always be a part of me. I giggle internally when people use the word “duty” in a sentence, love to use humor, and find it my personal goal to help all teens embrace their awkwardness by being the most awkward one in the room! 🙂 When I see the hurt that teens are dealing with today, my heart is drawn toward bringing hope, laughter, joy, and healing into their individual and family experiences.
I have also have a passion for working with adults and couples. Drawing from my own experiences of hurt, pain, joy, and hope, and from living as an empathetic person in the world for 40+ years, I have found it easy to connect to others in their experiences, both positive and negative. And, I believe that connection brings healing. This informs all my work with couples and with individuals.
I work from an attachment and neurological perspective and believe that we must do more than talk in therapy to affect lasting change. Our brains are fascinating and wonderful places, yet sometimes the wiring that happens in our childhood or a traumatic event impacts our functioning. While talk therapy is important, it is not the only way to healing.
In sessions with me you will have the opportunity to learn about your brain through psychoeducation (knowledge is power, right?) and use a variety of tools and resources including bi-lateral stimulation via vibration or eye movement, the Alpha-Stim, and internal mindfulness/visualization practices to help create lasting change.
I have worked in a variety of settings as therapist, including private practice, intensive outpatient services in hospital units, and as a family therapist at an adolescent residential treatment facility. Whether my office is filled with people or we are working one-on-one, my goal is to make sure that everyone feels heard.
I work with teen and adult clients experiencing anxiety, depression, self-harming behaviors, suicidal ideation, family conflict, marriage conflict, infidelity, trauma/PTSD, borderline personality disorder, premarital counseling and more.
Adaptive Internal Relational (AIR) Network-Spring 2019
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)-Spring 2018
Trauma Focused-Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TF-CBT) -Fall 2014
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) -Fall 2014
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples – Spring 2016
Gottman Method Couples Therapy-Level 1 -Winter 2016
Prepare and Enrich Certified – 2013
Thank you for taking the time to learn more about me. I hope to meet you and do this exciting and challenging work together!
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How “In Tandem Counseling” got its name:
One time I bought my husband a GPS unit (those super cool devices we needed before we had smart phones!). He wisely traded this gift with a friend for a tandem bicycle; a beautiful, vintage, brown, one-speed, Schwinn Twin! We love our tandem bike, but it caused us some conflict early on.
We had to learn how to communicate clearly, work together as a team, and offer each other support, especially going up hills on a 1970’s Schwinn Twin with only one speed! (No matter how badly my legs were burning, I would hear him yell from the front seat, “Are you pedaling?”)! Riding our tandem bike around town, we learned a lot about ourselves and each other. We had to balance together on turns, began to cheer each other on during the uphill burn, communicate when and where our next move would be, when it was time to put on the brakes, and what sort of obstacles or traffic was coming our way. All in all, we found that tandem biking was great for our relationship!
When I was dreaming about going into private practice and thinking about what I wanted to offer as a therapist, I was reminded of our experiences on the tandem bike. My approach to therapy is very similar. When I am working with couples, I want to help create that same dynamic of healthy communication, teamwork, and support. And when working one on one with an individual, I think therapy is about teamwork, support, and healthy communication. You get to tell me what you need and want, too! And when we work together, we go new places!