How “In Tandem Counseling” got its name:
One time I bought my husband a GPS unit (those super cool devices we needed before we had before smart phones!). He wisely traded this gift with a friend for a tandem bicycle; a beautiful, vintage, brown, one-speed, Schwinn Twin! We love our tandem bike, but it caused us some conflict early on. We had to learn how to communicate clearly, work together as a team, and offer each other support, especially going up hills on a 1970’s Schwinn Twin with only one speed! (No matter how badly my legs were burning, I would hear him yell from the front seat, “Are you pedaling?”)! We learned a lot about ourselves and each other by riding our tandem bike around town. We had to balance together on turns, began to cheer each other on during the uphill burn, communicate when and where our next turn would be, when it was time to put on the brakes, and what sort of obstacles or traffic were coming our way. All in all, we found that tandem biking was great for our marriage!
When I was dreaming about going into private practice and thinking about what I wanted to offer as a therapist, I was reminded of our experiences on the tandem bike. My approach to therapy is very similar. When I am working with couples, I want to help create that same dynamic of healthy communication, teamwork, and support. And even when working one on one with an individual, I think therapy is about teamwork, support, and healthy communication. You get to tell me what you need and want, too! And when we work together, we go new places!
More about Kelly:
Author and Theologian, Frederick Buechner believed that we are called to a place where our deep gladness and the world’s deep hunger meet. That is what I found when pursuing a second career in therapy. My own journey has led me to believe that all people have unmeasurable value and worth. It is my deep gladness to be able to sit with others in their hurts and struggles and build a relationship rooted in trust and vulnerability.
Prior to my work as a therapist, I spent 12 years working for non profit organizations in pursuit of justice. My heart’s desire is to see us live in a space with less hurt, more compassion, and deeper understanding of ourselves and others. I have a Master’s degree in marriage and family therapy as well as in theology and am comfortable exploring spiritual questions or supporting those whose pursuit is apart from spiritual beliefs.
Much of my life I have worked with teenagers and absolutely adore them! I like to say when working with teens that my “inner junior high boy” will always be a part of me. I giggle internally when people use the word “duty” in a sentence, love to use humor, and find it my personal goal to help all teens embrace their awkwardness by being the most awkward one in the room! 🙂 When I see the hurt that teens are dealing with today, my heart to is drawn toward bringing hope, laughter, joy, and healing into their individual and family experiences.
But as an adult, I have also found a passion for working with adults and couples. Drawing from my own experiences of hurt/pain, joy, and hope, and from living as an empathetic person in the world for nearly 40 years, I have found it easy to connect to others in their experiences, both positive and negative. And I believe that connection brings healing. I use this to inform my work with couples and with individuals.
When I am not working, I enjoy spending time with my husband, kayaking, walking around the Twin Cities lakes, riding my bike, hanging out with friends, drinking good wine, and the occasional Netflix binge of a good TV series.